A day to look forward to.

 "Being with you makes everyday a day to look forward to," those are lovely words of love from my husband. Being married in this modern day can be anything from a task to a walk in the park. It all depends on the persons in it together. They say that marriage is such that those who are in it want out so bad and those who are out of it would do anything to be in. At times I have agreed, other times, naaah. It is in those times when the statement seems so obvious that two people who were once in love turn into monsters, they live only for self. Everything they do is driven by self gratification, they are a thirsty lot... all they do is hunt their prey until they nab the poor mate and drain them out their last. In these incidences that the similarities between man and beast become obvious.

 A few days before our anniversary, I met with my friend for lunch and she narrated a story that sounded so fictional it would only befit a novel. Mmmhh, a real life occurrence with the characters in the story so real that I could even picture their faces in my mind! And so my friend went on, to tell me how a man who had refused to take care of their daughter, born out love had decided to marry her best friend. A friend she had cried with when times were hard was all along seeing her baby's daddy! People, I know that whether this is wrong or not is entirely up to personal judgement but to me it is wrong FULLSTOP. We are fully responsible for our actions.

On a totally different scene another friend had something bothering her and she really wanted to share. I am not a marriage expert, I don't even think am near what anyone would consider their perfect marriage partner, but I know that just like a job,  in marriage you have to perform your JD and even exceed expectations if you have to derive any benefits and enjoy bliss. So we sat down, ordered and continued to chat she laughed when there was a joke and even joked back, then... she dropped the bombshell. Yes, they were having problems, nothing seems to work between them anymore. She has even toyed around with the idea of picking the kids and leaving him for good. I was dumfounded, because I didn't know what to tell her. After what seemed like hours of dissecting, we agreed on two  things. That she is part of the problem too and divorce can never be an option... marriage is a lifelong commitment. As we parted, we both vowed to make it work no matter what, because once the root of the problem is traced, a path to healing will be set.

In their book - The Promise of Marriage, RBC Ministries states in the second of God's Expectations on marriage that Friends, children and extended family are given a chance to see the kind of faithful love, honesty, moral courage, true humility, incredible patience and tender understanding that God can give in marriage.  It is in marriage that we taught the true meaning of selfless love, a love that does what it takes and locks out the attitude of "do your part, I do mine"
 So I learnt something, "Do your part and do it good even if your part is the whole!" because that is what it takes!

http://www.slideshare.net/tatianasimpson/what-is-the-promise-of-marriage






























By Heart, By Soul